On Filling your Own Cup First

Love.pngThe optimist’s cup is half-full and
the pessimist’s cup is half-empty.
Why not just fill up your cup? ;))

That’s what today’s blog is about.
And no, I’m not talking about coffee now
but about ful-filling your needs.

Because if you’re reading this, chances are you’re a person who deeply cares for and about your friends, family, work, the world. A beautiful quality, but one that needs to be handled with (self-)care. Since unfortunately the downside of it is that many of us put ourselves last on the list of people and projects we care for, or we are not even on it at all!

Of course it’s much easier said than done to start turning this behaviour around. We have many beliefs and blockages that might stop us from positively pouring out into everyone and everything, but not into ourselves.

This blog post serves as a reminder that:

“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe,
deserve your love and affection”

And yes Buddha himself said it, in case you still somewhere believe that self-care is not a very spiritual thing to do. And another reminder to counteract the belief that self-care is selfish which many of us got raised with: ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup.’


It’s when our cups get empty, that we begin to literally feel unfulfilled, exhausted, frustrated, depleted, etc. We might begin blaming others or circumstances for our unhappiness, looking outside of ourselves for approval, attention, engaging in addictive behaviour even, overindulging in material things and other (unhealthy) ways to be fulfilled; basically looking for love in all the wrong places. A disempowering cycle.

The way out does not lie in blaming or beating ourselves up over it, the first step is becoming aware of it and accept that this pattern is currently at play in our lives. Only then we can change in a loving, gentle and (yes, you get the message) self-caring way.

So how do you go about filling your own cup?

Here are some Self-Care Suggestions…

  • One way to get started is to list the activities (or non-activities such as simply lying in the sunshine or on the couch;) that replenish you. For more inspiration and practical tips, you can have a look at these previous blog articles: The Magic of Mornings – The Potential of a Personal Practice and The Power of Positive Energy and How to Generate it.

  • Another way is to identify a belief or behavior that is currently stopping you from taking care of yourself. Then determine a first small step you could take to (again, self-caringly) change this. If you’re feeling brave, you can also share it in the comments below.

  • I’d also love to invite you to the (free) soulful self-care month in August! Every day you’ll receive a video challenge, motivational quote and soothing song (to build your self-care playlist) to start putting yourself first.

Let's start filling our own cups first,so that we can abundantly pour out into the projects and peoplethat we truly love and care about..png

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